Tuesday, July 14, 2009

What's on your Agenda?

"To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest". Mahatma Gandhi

Motive is your reason for doing something. It's the "why" that motivates the "what".

Everything we do has a motive behind it. People who demonstrate a genuine caring nature inspire the most trust. You're not going to trust someone who could care less about you, are you? Caring people have caring values, they care about purposes,they care about their quality of work, they care about society, etc...

If you genuinely don't care- that's fine. It's best to stay transparent. Pretending you care, when you really don't, will only lead to roadblocks created out of suspicion and distrust. Who wants the reputation of a "phony"? Personally, when someone is being fake to me, I feel as if it's an insult to my intelligence, wouldn't you agree?

Motive stimulates Agenda. It's what you intend to do beause of your motive.

I've found conducting business/relationships with people who have your best interests in mind, as well as their own, lead to win-win situation for all. People with a self-serving agenda don't care about you, they'll do whatever it takes to get ahead. And yes they may get results, but they eventually fall flat on their butts. You don't want that for yourself, now do you? An ideal situation would be to achieve certain results and sustain them.

Your motive and agenda will become clear with your behavior. Your behavior is your actions.

You can say this or that, but your behavior proves your true intentions. Acting in the best interest of others typically comes from a person who has a caring motive and an agenda of mutual benefit.

I've encountered numerous people who claim they care, but inside they have a "I could really care less about you attitude - it's all about me". This behavior is deceitful. This isn't a lasting friendship, realtionship, or business deal. Someone loses and someone wins. Someone's credibility is put on the chopping block, and trust is lost.

Your intentions can't be faked. It's what comes from the heart. But it is something you can definitely work on and improve.

Everyone faces challenges of intentions. We may not be completely transparent at all times. And we pay for it. It's kinda like breaking the agreement with your credit card holder to pay the amount owed by a certain date and time. If you're late you pay penalties. It makes it that much harder to pay the balance off. Your interest rate increases and sometimes it affects your credit score.

This determines what you attract into your life.

This movie is a fine example of the negative outcome of bad intentions:


If you haven't seen it, watch it, maybe a few of you will change the intent of your heart, or atleast improve it.

"The measure of your life will not be in what you accumulate but in what you give away". Dr. Wayne Dyer - The Power of Intention

I volunteered my time this Saturday helping Habitat for Humanity making repairs on homes of less fortunate people. (money wise) If you'd like to help, here's the link to their website. They have many openings throughout the week, as well. They'd love your help.



  1. My goodness, where do I begin! 1st, GREAT post...truly wonderful! The people you speak of are the ones that we must cut out of our lives. Unfortunately, they are sometimes people we care about. Which brings me to my next point. Those of us that do care & always have good intentions are the ones that get hurt, used, & abused. It's a vicious cycle. It causes you to put walls up in fear of being too caring. Can you tell which end of this situation I'm always on, haha! Love you girl! Love your insight as well!

  2. OH! That movie was so good. I had actually forgotten about it. Great point!

  3. Thank you, Shana!

    Don't be scared just be careful. Develop a check-list of red flags or signs to determine what you feel is appropriate behavior in how you conduct your relationships/business deals, etc...

    Even in the movie, all the signs were there. He just didn't see them. I'm bad about allowing my feelings cloud my better judgement, at times, as well.

    The joys of being "in love"...LOL

    Thanks for your post:-)


  4. I meant to say in how and with who you conduct your relationships/business deals...oops! :-)

  5. Good intentions are only good intentions.
    They lead you nowhere.
    The person may have good intentions, but it doesn't mean they're equipped to make great decisions or transactions. (business & personal)

    Great post. Thought I'd throw this out there to ponder.


  6. You're right, Sheryl! I know this from personal experience.

    A good person doesn't always mean they'll make a great business partner. But atleast you have a good friend.

    Great point:-) Have a fabulous day!!!

    Thanks for the post.

  7. You always write great blogs. :) :)

  8. Thank you, Gina!

    You're too sweet:-)

    I appreciate you reading them!!!