"I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts, then there is no hurt, but only more love."
The most enthralling love is the passionate love you experience with your mate. Nothing else in the world matters to you while in their presence. All your problems fade away and no one can take their place. You can't substitute real love.
You can choose to close your eyes or turn a blind eye to the things you don't want to see, but you can't choose who your heart loves. You don't have a choice.
You can choose to be with someone or not to be with someone, but it doesn't change how you feel.
Follow Mother Teresa's advice, and choose to only love until it hurts, then you won't hurt each other.