We have a very short time on this planet, and we waste so many hours not really enjoying what time we have. ~ Loretta LaRoche
I've been pretty stressed out for over the past year or so now due to an unhealthy relationship. No matter what I did, it was never good enough. I literally beat myself up on the inside trying to make this person happy. I always felt as if I did something wrong and a few times I did, but only after he had wronged me. Does this justify my actions? No. People fight in relationships and hurt each other during the process.
Don't change yourself for someone else it will only lead to resentment. You'll grow angry with the person. Don't get in a relationship thinking they will change. You'll only grow frustrated because they won't change.
If he's a player don't think he won't play you. If she's a gold-digger don't think she won't use you. Granted there are a few exceptions:-)
Not long ago, I took the time to compose a handwritten letter for an ex-boyfriend expressing my feelings towards him. He later chose to expose the letter via the internet being mean-spirited. But if I were to have done the same thing, he would claim that I'm evil and hateful and blah, blah, blah. It was okay for him to do certain things, but not me. Go figure!
If someone doesn't except you exactly as you are, they aren't the one for you. You can't do anything to make them love, like you, or want to be with you. It's a sign to hit the road and find/wait for someone else who will.
This treatment isn't his fault. It's mine. I allowed it. Although he proclaims to be a compassionate, forgiving, and inspirational guru. He may be that for other people, but for me, he's my kryptonite.
Now this person is no longer apart of my life, and things have been much more peaceful. I don't feel as if I'm constantly walking on egg shells.
He actually got mad at me for nodding my head at church. He said it was embarrassing because I was taking the attention away from the pastor and placing it upon myself. I wasn't nodding my head insanely but in slight agreeance with the pastor's sermon.
He belittled my dreams, my goals, and my life in general. I grew tired of it. I did as much as I could and put him number 1 in my life and I expected the same in return but I never received it.
Don't allow yourself to get in the position I allowed myself to be in, it's a deep hole and it's extremely hard to escape.
It's not you, it's them. Love yourself first, and everything will fall into place. Don't give up on your dreams, goals, aspirations in life for someone else. A person who truly loves you will never ask you to change anything about yourself. (unless you're doing something to harm yourself or being self-destructive) They will support you no matter what.
Once you get rid of these type of people in your life, you can enjoy it - your way!
Monday, August 31, 2009
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
When one door closes, another opens...
Today is the last day of my 30-Day Vegetarian Challenge. I have the option to eat whatever I choose, but I'm choosing to stick with the Vegetarian life-style. I will be adding fish back into my diet, but I'm debating on eliminating dairy products. We'll see how it goes. For now, I feel like a WINNER! YAY! I made it! It feels great to achieve a goal.
I had my first little league soccer practice last night. It was hectic at first. The weather was yucky and I began to call the parents to cancel practice via the league owner's decision. After my first phone call, the rain stopped, and practice was still a go. There was some confusion over who was on what team, but everything was settled and practice began. I believe I did well. Red-light, Green-light was a hit!
I believe this is my latest challenge for a few reasons.
1. I don't know much about soccer.
2. I've never coached a team.
3. It's a commitment.
My goal is to make sure my team has a great time playing this season. I want them to enjoy coming to practice. I want them to enjoy their games. I want them all to be friends. I want them to learn the fundamentals of soccer. Most importantly, I want them to have FUN!!!
It's my responsibility to make sure the above happens. Wish me luck!
P.S. I'm open to any and all suggestions!
I had my first little league soccer practice last night. It was hectic at first. The weather was yucky and I began to call the parents to cancel practice via the league owner's decision. After my first phone call, the rain stopped, and practice was still a go. There was some confusion over who was on what team, but everything was settled and practice began. I believe I did well. Red-light, Green-light was a hit!
I believe this is my latest challenge for a few reasons.
1. I don't know much about soccer.
2. I've never coached a team.
3. It's a commitment.
My goal is to make sure my team has a great time playing this season. I want them to enjoy coming to practice. I want them to enjoy their games. I want them all to be friends. I want them to learn the fundamentals of soccer. Most importantly, I want them to have FUN!!!
It's my responsibility to make sure the above happens. Wish me luck!
P.S. I'm open to any and all suggestions!
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Our way of thinking is similar to a computer program
Since I've been on my vegetarian diet, my mental clarity has escalated. During this process, I've realized we ARE very similar to the events in the movie "The Matrix".
What we eat is merely a luxury. We don't actually need the food. We need the vitamins, minerals, and nutrients for our body to function properly. The less waste (after the nutrients have been extracted) our body has to digest, the better your body will feel. You have less toxins building up on the inside polluting your temple. (aka your body) Food isn't required to taste good, but we've spoiled ourselves with spices, dressings, and all that jazz to spruce up what is needed for our body to function at it's highest level of efficiency.
The most vital organ is your brain. Your brain controls everything. Similar to the way The Matrix controls everything. What codes are encrypted is what the system will perform. What you put in your body determines how your body will perform.
Which brings me to my next thought... People are creatures of habit and comfort. You keep repeating the same behavior because it's what has been programmed into your brain.
A person who's involved in an abusive relationship, may end the relationship, but end-up in another abusive relationship. The problem isn't the abuser, the problem is the person who's allowing themselves to be abused. The abused has a choice to leave, and not allow someone to treat them this way. But once again, it's all they know. They have an addiction to be told they're not lovable, and somehow feeling this pain makes them feel loved. This is their comfort zone and habit.
The question is "What need are they trying to satisfy?"...
If you can figure out the need you can fix their behavior. Similar to if your computer has a virus, you can find it, fix it, and save your computer before it crashes.
The quality of your relationships is an important measure of our self-worth. Those closest to us, need to enhance our well-being with support, time, attention, and genuine care. Not destroy our sense of value with criticism, lack of support, lack of interest, or rejection, etc...
Everyone, especially adults, have a right to who they allow into their life. It's important to have your own walls, shields, or protection to keep these people from polluting your mind. My computer has McAfee to prevent it from being infected with a virus. Create a method to prevent your brain from being affected by all the pollution of the world.
You're responsible for your body's programming. You create it. And if you risk going out there into the world without protection, it will boggle you down with infection. <----That's an original quote right there!
Hope you all have a fabulous day!!!
xoxo
What we eat is merely a luxury. We don't actually need the food. We need the vitamins, minerals, and nutrients for our body to function properly. The less waste (after the nutrients have been extracted) our body has to digest, the better your body will feel. You have less toxins building up on the inside polluting your temple. (aka your body) Food isn't required to taste good, but we've spoiled ourselves with spices, dressings, and all that jazz to spruce up what is needed for our body to function at it's highest level of efficiency.
The most vital organ is your brain. Your brain controls everything. Similar to the way The Matrix controls everything. What codes are encrypted is what the system will perform. What you put in your body determines how your body will perform.
Which brings me to my next thought... People are creatures of habit and comfort. You keep repeating the same behavior because it's what has been programmed into your brain.
A person who's involved in an abusive relationship, may end the relationship, but end-up in another abusive relationship. The problem isn't the abuser, the problem is the person who's allowing themselves to be abused. The abused has a choice to leave, and not allow someone to treat them this way. But once again, it's all they know. They have an addiction to be told they're not lovable, and somehow feeling this pain makes them feel loved. This is their comfort zone and habit.
The question is "What need are they trying to satisfy?"...
If you can figure out the need you can fix their behavior. Similar to if your computer has a virus, you can find it, fix it, and save your computer before it crashes.
The quality of your relationships is an important measure of our self-worth. Those closest to us, need to enhance our well-being with support, time, attention, and genuine care. Not destroy our sense of value with criticism, lack of support, lack of interest, or rejection, etc...
Everyone, especially adults, have a right to who they allow into their life. It's important to have your own walls, shields, or protection to keep these people from polluting your mind. My computer has McAfee to prevent it from being infected with a virus. Create a method to prevent your brain from being affected by all the pollution of the world.
You're responsible for your body's programming. You create it. And if you risk going out there into the world without protection, it will boggle you down with infection. <----That's an original quote right there!
Hope you all have a fabulous day!!!
xoxo
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Have you ever heard the story of "The 3 Little Pigs"? Of course you have...
The big bad wolf was able to blow down the first 2 houses and eat the little pigs due to their weak foundation and materials. The last pig, however, was smart and built his with a strong foundation and material - BRICK! The wolf's attempts were unsuccessful and the little pig survived.
This story (now an analogy in my blog) can be applied to many areas of your life. You need the right tools to survive certain situations. Your mind is your greatest tool. Use it wisely.
"The body cannot live without the mind" ~ Morpheous
When used correctly, you can accomplish or overcome anything. When you deny yourself something, you make your mind stronger. The mind trains the body how to function without what it craves.
If you want to quit smoking, you just do it. You're in control of your mind. You tell yourself NO! You deny what it craves. This will push you one step closer to achieving your goal.
I'm not going to say it's easy, but this is where your building starts. Are you going to build it out of sticks or bricks? It's pointless to say you're going to do something and NOT do it. It's pointless to build something out of sticks when you know it won't last, if it even upholds in the first place. You have a choice when it comes to these decisions whether you believe it or not. Choose to use bricks.
Keep your word to yourself. Prove to yourself you can do it. You CAN do it! Start laying those bricks knowing that each one will shelter you from harm in the long run. It will protect what is most sacred to you - YOU!
Who likes being referred to as weak? When you build-up your self-discipline, you become stronger. You won't pick-up a cigarette to light it. You won't call your ex when you're lonely. You won't go out when you don't have the money. You won't buy unnecessary material things instead of pay your bills, etc... You will have trained yourself to tell yourself NO.
Eventually, you'll have less stress in your life due to your discipline. Your bills will be paid on time, if at all. You'll find other things to occupy your time during your lonely moments. You won't have any addictions to kick. You'll have less health problems. You'll feel better about yourself.
Sure we all want things, but do we need them? NO!
I was tempted to buy a new car a few weeks ago, but I decided to stick with what I have because it's almost paid for and I don't have many problems out of it. I didn't need a new car, but a new one would have been nice.
I decided to try a vegetarian lifestyle for 30 Days for humanitarian reasons but also to build my self-discipline. It's been a challenge, but I like not having the luxury, anymore. Eating is a necessity, but the actual food is a luxury. Similar to the oatmeal type substance they eat in the movie "The Matrix".
I've decided to coach my son's soccer team this year. I don't know much about soccer but this gives me more of an incentive to learn and bond with my son. I believe it'll encourage him to do better. He listens to me and I'll be able to train him while I'm learning the skill. I want him to have fun but also be the best he can be at everything he does in life. All of this will be implanted into his mind.
This is all a process in which I'll become closer to God. Something I've tried to do my whole life, and I've finally found MY way. I believe you can find your way, too.
The big bad wolf was able to blow down the first 2 houses and eat the little pigs due to their weak foundation and materials. The last pig, however, was smart and built his with a strong foundation and material - BRICK! The wolf's attempts were unsuccessful and the little pig survived.
This story (now an analogy in my blog) can be applied to many areas of your life. You need the right tools to survive certain situations. Your mind is your greatest tool. Use it wisely.
"The body cannot live without the mind" ~ Morpheous
When used correctly, you can accomplish or overcome anything. When you deny yourself something, you make your mind stronger. The mind trains the body how to function without what it craves.
If you want to quit smoking, you just do it. You're in control of your mind. You tell yourself NO! You deny what it craves. This will push you one step closer to achieving your goal.
I'm not going to say it's easy, but this is where your building starts. Are you going to build it out of sticks or bricks? It's pointless to say you're going to do something and NOT do it. It's pointless to build something out of sticks when you know it won't last, if it even upholds in the first place. You have a choice when it comes to these decisions whether you believe it or not. Choose to use bricks.
Keep your word to yourself. Prove to yourself you can do it. You CAN do it! Start laying those bricks knowing that each one will shelter you from harm in the long run. It will protect what is most sacred to you - YOU!
Who likes being referred to as weak? When you build-up your self-discipline, you become stronger. You won't pick-up a cigarette to light it. You won't call your ex when you're lonely. You won't go out when you don't have the money. You won't buy unnecessary material things instead of pay your bills, etc... You will have trained yourself to tell yourself NO.
Eventually, you'll have less stress in your life due to your discipline. Your bills will be paid on time, if at all. You'll find other things to occupy your time during your lonely moments. You won't have any addictions to kick. You'll have less health problems. You'll feel better about yourself.
Sure we all want things, but do we need them? NO!
I was tempted to buy a new car a few weeks ago, but I decided to stick with what I have because it's almost paid for and I don't have many problems out of it. I didn't need a new car, but a new one would have been nice.
I decided to try a vegetarian lifestyle for 30 Days for humanitarian reasons but also to build my self-discipline. It's been a challenge, but I like not having the luxury, anymore. Eating is a necessity, but the actual food is a luxury. Similar to the oatmeal type substance they eat in the movie "The Matrix".
I've decided to coach my son's soccer team this year. I don't know much about soccer but this gives me more of an incentive to learn and bond with my son. I believe it'll encourage him to do better. He listens to me and I'll be able to train him while I'm learning the skill. I want him to have fun but also be the best he can be at everything he does in life. All of this will be implanted into his mind.
This is all a process in which I'll become closer to God. Something I've tried to do my whole life, and I've finally found MY way. I believe you can find your way, too.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Would you eat your dog?
Warning: Today's blog is nothing fancy.
I decided to embark on a 30-Day Vegetarian diet. I'm on day 9 and finally feeling normal. The first 2 days were easy. By the third day, I started feeling withdrawal symptoms which is known as a detoxification period.
I've experienced stomach pains, light-headed moments, weakness, and fatigue. I wasn't going to cave on my experiment choice, but I wasn't sure if I were going to stick to this diet after the 30 days were over.
I've been told you feel healthier, more energetic, etc... But you have to go through the pain to feel the good. Your body is healing, reprogramming, and learning to function with the new nutrients you've been supplying it and without meat. In my 27 years, I've always eaten meat, so I understand why it hurts. My body isn't used to it.
Change is a process. It takes time accepting the new things and saying goodbye to the old things. You're going to experience alittle pain in the process of change. It's good for you. If you always stick with the same routine, you're never going to grow. You'll always stay the same. We can all make improvements in certain areas of our lives, and the only way you're going to improve is to change a particular routine.
I'm certain this change will do my body good. It's a lesson on sticking with my commitments. It builds self-discipline which only adds to your character and credibility. It also changes my body's normal routine of functioning. I'm confident my body will benefit from this change. It's forcing it to release years of toxins. Which will help increase it's level of efficiency.
Anyone who has a habit they want to kick, you've gotta tough it out during the painful beginning, if you want to achieve your goal. Be strong. It's all in your mind.
Seriously, I use the idea of eating your dog to stick with this process. You wouldn't eat your dog, would you? Why eat meat?
You can do it!
Check out this site:
www.earthlings.com
I decided to embark on a 30-Day Vegetarian diet. I'm on day 9 and finally feeling normal. The first 2 days were easy. By the third day, I started feeling withdrawal symptoms which is known as a detoxification period.
I've experienced stomach pains, light-headed moments, weakness, and fatigue. I wasn't going to cave on my experiment choice, but I wasn't sure if I were going to stick to this diet after the 30 days were over.
I've been told you feel healthier, more energetic, etc... But you have to go through the pain to feel the good. Your body is healing, reprogramming, and learning to function with the new nutrients you've been supplying it and without meat. In my 27 years, I've always eaten meat, so I understand why it hurts. My body isn't used to it.
Change is a process. It takes time accepting the new things and saying goodbye to the old things. You're going to experience alittle pain in the process of change. It's good for you. If you always stick with the same routine, you're never going to grow. You'll always stay the same. We can all make improvements in certain areas of our lives, and the only way you're going to improve is to change a particular routine.
I'm certain this change will do my body good. It's a lesson on sticking with my commitments. It builds self-discipline which only adds to your character and credibility. It also changes my body's normal routine of functioning. I'm confident my body will benefit from this change. It's forcing it to release years of toxins. Which will help increase it's level of efficiency.
Anyone who has a habit they want to kick, you've gotta tough it out during the painful beginning, if you want to achieve your goal. Be strong. It's all in your mind.
Seriously, I use the idea of eating your dog to stick with this process. You wouldn't eat your dog, would you? Why eat meat?
You can do it!
Check out this site:
www.earthlings.com
Friday, July 17, 2009
Changing the world one person at a time...
"Men build too many walls, and not enough bridges." Sir Isaac Newton
It feels good to receive encouragement. It feels even better to know someone truly believes in you. Sometimes someone else's extention of trust can make all the difference in the world. It can provide the extra push, especially when you feel like giving up.
What you must realize is you can do the same for others! You can help them rise to the challenge, discover their hidden potential, and basically help make contributions that benefit us all.
When people make good decisions and strive for excellence we all benefit from it.
How does it make you feel to hear someone say "you can do it", "I believe in you", "You have what it takes to succeed", "You're doing a great job", etc...? Simply hearing the words create the ability for someone to become successful in their goals.
People who extend their trust to you are viewed as mentors, role models, leaders, and heroes. I become overwhelmed with emotions of gratitude when I think about the people who have made a difference in my life.
If you're a parent, think of the difference it makes in your child when you provide support towards their personal goals. If you're at their sporting events cheering them on. I know Tre's little eyes light-up when he hears me yell or cheer him on during his events. He loves to hear he's done a great job on everything he achieves. Even beating a particular score or "bad guy" on his Wii or DS. LOL He knows I believe in him. I want to instill inside of him he can achieve anything in life. He has the power to move mountains.
I'm striving for excellence, not just for myself, but also for my son. I'm his role model, his hero, his mother, his backbone for support, etc... Instead of building walls, I want to help build bridges in life. I want you to do the same.
It feels good to receive encouragement. It feels even better to know someone truly believes in you. Sometimes someone else's extention of trust can make all the difference in the world. It can provide the extra push, especially when you feel like giving up.
What you must realize is you can do the same for others! You can help them rise to the challenge, discover their hidden potential, and basically help make contributions that benefit us all.
When people make good decisions and strive for excellence we all benefit from it.
How does it make you feel to hear someone say "you can do it", "I believe in you", "You have what it takes to succeed", "You're doing a great job", etc...? Simply hearing the words create the ability for someone to become successful in their goals.
People who extend their trust to you are viewed as mentors, role models, leaders, and heroes. I become overwhelmed with emotions of gratitude when I think about the people who have made a difference in my life.
If you're a parent, think of the difference it makes in your child when you provide support towards their personal goals. If you're at their sporting events cheering them on. I know Tre's little eyes light-up when he hears me yell or cheer him on during his events. He loves to hear he's done a great job on everything he achieves. Even beating a particular score or "bad guy" on his Wii or DS. LOL He knows I believe in him. I want to instill inside of him he can achieve anything in life. He has the power to move mountains.
I'm striving for excellence, not just for myself, but also for my son. I'm his role model, his hero, his mother, his backbone for support, etc... Instead of building walls, I want to help build bridges in life. I want you to do the same.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
The Devil never changes form. He only changes you.
"Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it." ~ Matthew 7:13
The hardest part of sustaining a path of eternal life and everlasting peace, is being alone. Your friends are no longer your friends, because your priorites have shifted. The temptation to fall into your "old ways" starts to creep back into your life. This is the Devil trying to get you. Evil will always embrace you with open arms and guide you, faster than the speed of light, down a road of destruction.
You've got to stay strong. Remind yourself this is only a test of your will. The Devil loves to play games with people. He loves to test the waters. He loves hunting for his prey. He embraces you at your weakest moments.
Choosing the way of God is hard. It's a life of discipline. It's a life filled with truth. It's a life of humility. It's my belief, once you truly deny Satan, deception, deceit, greed, vanity, etc...and accept Jesus in your life, you'll reap great benefits.
Last night, I read the miraculous testimony of Brian "Head" Welch called Save me from Myself. He was a guitarist in the band Korn. I used to be a big fan of Korn, so I was drawn to his book this past Sunday. I'm very glad I did. It proves how powerful Jesus is in transforming lives. It provided the hope I needed to stay on my narrow path. It provided me with "God's Wink".
I was raised Catholic, but I don't choose to follow Catholicism.
After speaking to my mother for hours last night on this very subject, I decided I want to be Baptised, again. I was Baptised as a baby in the Catholic Church but it wasn't my choice. I'd prefer to make this a commitment because it's my choice.
My mission is to find a suitable church which I feel comfortable giving my testimony and washing away my "sins". I'm open to suggestions.
My point today is although I feel lonely for making my decision at the present moment, I know in my heart it's the right choice. I know I'm not alone. I know God is all around me. I'll no longer be weak. I'll continue to grow strong. I'll continue along my path, and I'll lead by example.
I'm willing to document all the details to help someone else see the light.
I started a healing process to forgive everyone who has wronged me. It's been a hard process. I've been sucked into unnecessary circumstances, at moments, but overall it's allowed me to drop the extra baggage I'd been carrying. I've also apologized for the things I've done to hinder our friendship/relationship, as well. I believe it's vital to forgive in order to grow.
I'm only preparing myself...Are you?
The hardest part of sustaining a path of eternal life and everlasting peace, is being alone. Your friends are no longer your friends, because your priorites have shifted. The temptation to fall into your "old ways" starts to creep back into your life. This is the Devil trying to get you. Evil will always embrace you with open arms and guide you, faster than the speed of light, down a road of destruction.
You've got to stay strong. Remind yourself this is only a test of your will. The Devil loves to play games with people. He loves to test the waters. He loves hunting for his prey. He embraces you at your weakest moments.
Choosing the way of God is hard. It's a life of discipline. It's a life filled with truth. It's a life of humility. It's my belief, once you truly deny Satan, deception, deceit, greed, vanity, etc...and accept Jesus in your life, you'll reap great benefits.
Last night, I read the miraculous testimony of Brian "Head" Welch called Save me from Myself. He was a guitarist in the band Korn. I used to be a big fan of Korn, so I was drawn to his book this past Sunday. I'm very glad I did. It proves how powerful Jesus is in transforming lives. It provided the hope I needed to stay on my narrow path. It provided me with "God's Wink".
I was raised Catholic, but I don't choose to follow Catholicism.
After speaking to my mother for hours last night on this very subject, I decided I want to be Baptised, again. I was Baptised as a baby in the Catholic Church but it wasn't my choice. I'd prefer to make this a commitment because it's my choice.
My mission is to find a suitable church which I feel comfortable giving my testimony and washing away my "sins". I'm open to suggestions.
My point today is although I feel lonely for making my decision at the present moment, I know in my heart it's the right choice. I know I'm not alone. I know God is all around me. I'll no longer be weak. I'll continue to grow strong. I'll continue along my path, and I'll lead by example.
I'm willing to document all the details to help someone else see the light.
I started a healing process to forgive everyone who has wronged me. It's been a hard process. I've been sucked into unnecessary circumstances, at moments, but overall it's allowed me to drop the extra baggage I'd been carrying. I've also apologized for the things I've done to hinder our friendship/relationship, as well. I believe it's vital to forgive in order to grow.
I'm only preparing myself...Are you?
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
What's on your Agenda?
"To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest". Mahatma Gandhi
Motive is your reason for doing something. It's the "why" that motivates the "what".
Everything we do has a motive behind it. People who demonstrate a genuine caring nature inspire the most trust. You're not going to trust someone who could care less about you, are you? Caring people have caring values, they care about purposes,they care about their quality of work, they care about society, etc...
If you genuinely don't care- that's fine. It's best to stay transparent. Pretending you care, when you really don't, will only lead to roadblocks created out of suspicion and distrust. Who wants the reputation of a "phony"? Personally, when someone is being fake to me, I feel as if it's an insult to my intelligence, wouldn't you agree?
Motive stimulates Agenda. It's what you intend to do beause of your motive.
I've found conducting business/relationships with people who have your best interests in mind, as well as their own, lead to win-win situation for all. People with a self-serving agenda don't care about you, they'll do whatever it takes to get ahead. And yes they may get results, but they eventually fall flat on their butts. You don't want that for yourself, now do you? An ideal situation would be to achieve certain results and sustain them.
Your motive and agenda will become clear with your behavior. Your behavior is your actions.
You can say this or that, but your behavior proves your true intentions. Acting in the best interest of others typically comes from a person who has a caring motive and an agenda of mutual benefit.
I've encountered numerous people who claim they care, but inside they have a "I could really care less about you attitude - it's all about me". This behavior is deceitful. This isn't a lasting friendship, realtionship, or business deal. Someone loses and someone wins. Someone's credibility is put on the chopping block, and trust is lost.
Your intentions can't be faked. It's what comes from the heart. But it is something you can definitely work on and improve.
Everyone faces challenges of intentions. We may not be completely transparent at all times. And we pay for it. It's kinda like breaking the agreement with your credit card holder to pay the amount owed by a certain date and time. If you're late you pay penalties. It makes it that much harder to pay the balance off. Your interest rate increases and sometimes it affects your credit score.
This determines what you attract into your life.
This movie is a fine example of the negative outcome of bad intentions:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=niaeMfvwdUs
If you haven't seen it, watch it, maybe a few of you will change the intent of your heart, or atleast improve it.
"The measure of your life will not be in what you accumulate but in what you give away". Dr. Wayne Dyer - The Power of Intention
I volunteered my time this Saturday helping Habitat for Humanity making repairs on homes of less fortunate people. (money wise) If you'd like to help, here's the link to their website. They have many openings throughout the week, as well. They'd love your help.
http://www.habitatbirmingham.org/
Motive is your reason for doing something. It's the "why" that motivates the "what".
Everything we do has a motive behind it. People who demonstrate a genuine caring nature inspire the most trust. You're not going to trust someone who could care less about you, are you? Caring people have caring values, they care about purposes,they care about their quality of work, they care about society, etc...
If you genuinely don't care- that's fine. It's best to stay transparent. Pretending you care, when you really don't, will only lead to roadblocks created out of suspicion and distrust. Who wants the reputation of a "phony"? Personally, when someone is being fake to me, I feel as if it's an insult to my intelligence, wouldn't you agree?
Motive stimulates Agenda. It's what you intend to do beause of your motive.
I've found conducting business/relationships with people who have your best interests in mind, as well as their own, lead to win-win situation for all. People with a self-serving agenda don't care about you, they'll do whatever it takes to get ahead. And yes they may get results, but they eventually fall flat on their butts. You don't want that for yourself, now do you? An ideal situation would be to achieve certain results and sustain them.
Your motive and agenda will become clear with your behavior. Your behavior is your actions.
You can say this or that, but your behavior proves your true intentions. Acting in the best interest of others typically comes from a person who has a caring motive and an agenda of mutual benefit.
I've encountered numerous people who claim they care, but inside they have a "I could really care less about you attitude - it's all about me". This behavior is deceitful. This isn't a lasting friendship, realtionship, or business deal. Someone loses and someone wins. Someone's credibility is put on the chopping block, and trust is lost.
Your intentions can't be faked. It's what comes from the heart. But it is something you can definitely work on and improve.
Everyone faces challenges of intentions. We may not be completely transparent at all times. And we pay for it. It's kinda like breaking the agreement with your credit card holder to pay the amount owed by a certain date and time. If you're late you pay penalties. It makes it that much harder to pay the balance off. Your interest rate increases and sometimes it affects your credit score.
This determines what you attract into your life.
This movie is a fine example of the negative outcome of bad intentions:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=niaeMfvwdUs
If you haven't seen it, watch it, maybe a few of you will change the intent of your heart, or atleast improve it.
"The measure of your life will not be in what you accumulate but in what you give away". Dr. Wayne Dyer - The Power of Intention
I volunteered my time this Saturday helping Habitat for Humanity making repairs on homes of less fortunate people. (money wise) If you'd like to help, here's the link to their website. They have many openings throughout the week, as well. They'd love your help.
http://www.habitatbirmingham.org/
Monday, July 13, 2009
Trust Changes Everything
In order to build trust with others, we must first start with ourselves.
Ask yourself:
1. Am I Credible?
2. Am I someone people (including myself) can trust?
3. Do people believe me?
I've learned the hard way that trust is based upon 2 things: Character and Competence.
It takes time to build your character, credibility, and competence after it's lost. I firmly believe it can be rebuilt, if the person has truly changed/reformed.
I will use myself as an example.
I work for my father's company as his office manager. I used to come in late, take days off, roll out of bed and roll into work in my pajamas, slack on doing my work (granted I always did it, but WHEN was the main question), etc... Basically I was unorganized, ungrateful, unappreciative, and disrespectful (not verbally, but my lack of motivation for my job speaks volumes) I'd always make excuses and justify things by telling myself and my dad I could be worse. Why I thought that statement was acceptable is beyond me, now. I continued to let my dad down, his trust and confidence continued to fall. My dad did kept hope in me because I hadn't always been that way. I'd always been independent, dependable, and trustworthy. I'm positive if I hadn't worked for my father, I'd have been standing in the unemployment line.
This was my character. This is how I represented myself. It created problems in all areas of my life. I decided I wanted to "get it together" and do things right. I had better results in life when I did what I was supposed to do.
I started making small changes in my life. I made a conscious effort to be on time for work every morning. I made a decision to dress more appropriately for an office environment, as I would for any other job. I removed myself from internet sites which took my attention away from my work. I made a conscious effort to finish my work the same day it was/is given to me. i.e...I used to only file on Fridays, now I file everyday. I no longer procrastinate.
By improving myself, I improved my work relationship with my father. I've re-established trust. He now counts on me and believes I'm an asset to his company.
Not only has this improved my work habits but it has improved many other areas in my life. I no longer have to drive home in the evenings after work to get ready for a meeting/gathering after work. (Let me state I live an hour north of my office) I'm already dressed. I no longer have to stay late to finish work I procrastinated all day to do. This has helped me keep my commitments and improve my punctuality, tremendously.
Trust starts with you. You have to trust yourself before anyone else can trust you. Self trust is vital to self improvement and to building trust in others.
YOU CAN DO IT, IF YOU TRY!!! It's never too late to start.
Ask yourself:
1. Am I Credible?
2. Am I someone people (including myself) can trust?
3. Do people believe me?
I've learned the hard way that trust is based upon 2 things: Character and Competence.
It takes time to build your character, credibility, and competence after it's lost. I firmly believe it can be rebuilt, if the person has truly changed/reformed.
I will use myself as an example.
I work for my father's company as his office manager. I used to come in late, take days off, roll out of bed and roll into work in my pajamas, slack on doing my work (granted I always did it, but WHEN was the main question), etc... Basically I was unorganized, ungrateful, unappreciative, and disrespectful (not verbally, but my lack of motivation for my job speaks volumes) I'd always make excuses and justify things by telling myself and my dad I could be worse. Why I thought that statement was acceptable is beyond me, now. I continued to let my dad down, his trust and confidence continued to fall. My dad did kept hope in me because I hadn't always been that way. I'd always been independent, dependable, and trustworthy. I'm positive if I hadn't worked for my father, I'd have been standing in the unemployment line.
This was my character. This is how I represented myself. It created problems in all areas of my life. I decided I wanted to "get it together" and do things right. I had better results in life when I did what I was supposed to do.
I started making small changes in my life. I made a conscious effort to be on time for work every morning. I made a decision to dress more appropriately for an office environment, as I would for any other job. I removed myself from internet sites which took my attention away from my work. I made a conscious effort to finish my work the same day it was/is given to me. i.e...I used to only file on Fridays, now I file everyday. I no longer procrastinate.
By improving myself, I improved my work relationship with my father. I've re-established trust. He now counts on me and believes I'm an asset to his company.
Not only has this improved my work habits but it has improved many other areas in my life. I no longer have to drive home in the evenings after work to get ready for a meeting/gathering after work. (Let me state I live an hour north of my office) I'm already dressed. I no longer have to stay late to finish work I procrastinated all day to do. This has helped me keep my commitments and improve my punctuality, tremendously.
Trust starts with you. You have to trust yourself before anyone else can trust you. Self trust is vital to self improvement and to building trust in others.
YOU CAN DO IT, IF YOU TRY!!! It's never too late to start.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
It's more than saying "I'm Sorry"!
Today I want to talk about Forgiveness.
Recently, I've had a change of heart. I'm not one to hold grudges, but I've grown tired of being repeatedly deceived. I eliminated quite a few people from my life, which I felt weren't beneficial. I felt drained in all areas and decided to "clean house".
As I'm in the process, I encountered someone you can call an "enemy", and actually took the time to get to know her. Instead of focusing on past issues, we've focused on NOW. We know we both said and did immature, dramatical, and just plain mean things to each other. There's no need in justifying our actions. Either way, we made bad decisions concerning our issues with each other towards each other.
My mentality is on a different level. I don't have excuses for my actions. But I learned alot from making those mistakes and have grown as a person. The next step was to forgive the person who I felt wronged me and vice versa.
Now that I know her, I feel as if I've robbed myself of a good friend for a long time now. We're alot alike. I'm glad we put our differences behind us. I know we have a solid lasting friendship. God couldn't have placed anyone better into my life at a better moment.
As I'm watching a movie last night, one of the character's made a statement about forgiving others. You forgive other people for yourself. To rid yourself from the pain of being hurt, to be able to move forward in life, and not let it hurt you. You forgive to be forgiven. God forgives you for your sins. He doesn't torture or retaliate. He forgives because he loves us/you.
Forgive someone today. It feels good to set yourself free.
Recently, I've had a change of heart. I'm not one to hold grudges, but I've grown tired of being repeatedly deceived. I eliminated quite a few people from my life, which I felt weren't beneficial. I felt drained in all areas and decided to "clean house".
As I'm in the process, I encountered someone you can call an "enemy", and actually took the time to get to know her. Instead of focusing on past issues, we've focused on NOW. We know we both said and did immature, dramatical, and just plain mean things to each other. There's no need in justifying our actions. Either way, we made bad decisions concerning our issues with each other towards each other.
My mentality is on a different level. I don't have excuses for my actions. But I learned alot from making those mistakes and have grown as a person. The next step was to forgive the person who I felt wronged me and vice versa.
Now that I know her, I feel as if I've robbed myself of a good friend for a long time now. We're alot alike. I'm glad we put our differences behind us. I know we have a solid lasting friendship. God couldn't have placed anyone better into my life at a better moment.
As I'm watching a movie last night, one of the character's made a statement about forgiving others. You forgive other people for yourself. To rid yourself from the pain of being hurt, to be able to move forward in life, and not let it hurt you. You forgive to be forgiven. God forgives you for your sins. He doesn't torture or retaliate. He forgives because he loves us/you.
Forgive someone today. It feels good to set yourself free.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Go team GO!!!
In the past few months, I've evaluated my life, my priorities, and everything in between.
I've come to realize how important my family truly means to me. Whether you get along or not, you'll never get another MOM or DAD, you'll never get the same CHILD, and you can't take back your mistakes.
Although I'm still learning as I go, the mistakes I make, my son and my family suffer the reprecussions with me. If I'm angry, sad, mad, upset, etc...They're forced to experience these emotions with me. If I make a bad decision, they're connected to me in some fashion, and it affects their life, as well.
I've listened to many people tell me about their relationship(s), I've experienced this in my own relationships, as well, it's vital for you as a parent to support your child. Many people have grown-up resenting their parents for not attending their sports games as a child, for not coming to important events during their childhood such as graduation, the signing of their college scholarship, taking pictures of their prom, etc... Most of these people are MEN.
These MEN have trust issues, along with self-esteem issues. If their mother could leave them, or not care about these important events, anyone could leave them. If their father chose to not attend, to not care, or support them as a child, would/could anyone?
These are important factors in a child's life, in their personal growth as a person, and their development from adolescence into an adult. The old sayings "Like mother, like daughter", "Like father, like son", "The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree" come to mind... If you have qualities about yourself, you don't particularly like, or don't represent the best person you can be at any given moment, get rid of them. There's always someone watching you - your child!
If you break the bond between you and your child, you're programming them with disaster. When you don't attend their sporting events to show support and love for their interests, it hurts them. If their parent(s) can hurt them, the ones who are responsible for them, anyone can hurt them. If they can't count on you, why would they believe they could count on anyone else? This may seem like something simple, but in the eyes of a child it's significant. You can't go back and create it differently later. You can't fix it. You can't mold clay after it has already dried. It's impossible.
Be the parent you wanted your parents to be, be the parent your parents strived to be, or be the parents everybody wants their parents to be, especially during their youth. A child needs support, not criticism. A child needs love, not neglect. The absence of love, brews the emotion of hate...
ASK YOURSELF HOW YOU'D FEEL WITHOUT YOUR PARENTS? OR HOW YOU FELT WITHOUT YOUR PARENTS? DO YOU WANT TO INFLICT PAIN ON ANOTHER INNOCENT SOUL? Talk to your heart, I'm sure it wants what is best for the both of you. Support your child no matter what decision they make or sport they play. The rest of their life depends on YOU.
I've come to realize how important my family truly means to me. Whether you get along or not, you'll never get another MOM or DAD, you'll never get the same CHILD, and you can't take back your mistakes.
Although I'm still learning as I go, the mistakes I make, my son and my family suffer the reprecussions with me. If I'm angry, sad, mad, upset, etc...They're forced to experience these emotions with me. If I make a bad decision, they're connected to me in some fashion, and it affects their life, as well.
I've listened to many people tell me about their relationship(s), I've experienced this in my own relationships, as well, it's vital for you as a parent to support your child. Many people have grown-up resenting their parents for not attending their sports games as a child, for not coming to important events during their childhood such as graduation, the signing of their college scholarship, taking pictures of their prom, etc... Most of these people are MEN.
These MEN have trust issues, along with self-esteem issues. If their mother could leave them, or not care about these important events, anyone could leave them. If their father chose to not attend, to not care, or support them as a child, would/could anyone?
These are important factors in a child's life, in their personal growth as a person, and their development from adolescence into an adult. The old sayings "Like mother, like daughter", "Like father, like son", "The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree" come to mind... If you have qualities about yourself, you don't particularly like, or don't represent the best person you can be at any given moment, get rid of them. There's always someone watching you - your child!
If you break the bond between you and your child, you're programming them with disaster. When you don't attend their sporting events to show support and love for their interests, it hurts them. If their parent(s) can hurt them, the ones who are responsible for them, anyone can hurt them. If they can't count on you, why would they believe they could count on anyone else? This may seem like something simple, but in the eyes of a child it's significant. You can't go back and create it differently later. You can't fix it. You can't mold clay after it has already dried. It's impossible.
Be the parent you wanted your parents to be, be the parent your parents strived to be, or be the parents everybody wants their parents to be, especially during their youth. A child needs support, not criticism. A child needs love, not neglect. The absence of love, brews the emotion of hate...
ASK YOURSELF HOW YOU'D FEEL WITHOUT YOUR PARENTS? OR HOW YOU FELT WITHOUT YOUR PARENTS? DO YOU WANT TO INFLICT PAIN ON ANOTHER INNOCENT SOUL? Talk to your heart, I'm sure it wants what is best for the both of you. Support your child no matter what decision they make or sport they play. The rest of their life depends on YOU.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
WOW! I haven't had much to say for awhile
During the past few months, I been down at the bottom of my rope, and too weak to climb back up (at the beginning). I started going to church and things were going well for me, but I didn't feel peace inside myself.
I wanted to venture out and have good times with my friends. I started going to dinner everything Thursday night with a group of friends and had some really great times. But still I didn't feel peace inside myself. Things actually grew worse.
I've been in stuck in a state of confusion wondering if this were the right decision or if that were the right decision.
After spending some much needed time at the beach, my soul finally felt a sense of peace. I was overwhelmed with emotions and I even cried to my friend.
The ocean speaks to my soul and it listens. The universal language we all know within us (which mine felt peace) had experienced nothing. NOTHING was exactly what I needed...no worries, no drama, no paranoia, no NOTHING. AHHH! It felt great.
Finally, I let go of wanting to say GOODBYE to someone I've had a rollercoaster relationship with for the past year. I let go of many friends, and they've let go of me.
Any problems that existed before I left, I no longer care about them. They're in the past. I can either dwell on them and allow them to effect my NOW and my Future, or let them go and leave them in the past.
The only direction you can go is forward, you don't have an option. I choose to go forward with a smile. I get to my destination, no matter what I choose, might as well enjoy it.
xoxo
I wanted to venture out and have good times with my friends. I started going to dinner everything Thursday night with a group of friends and had some really great times. But still I didn't feel peace inside myself. Things actually grew worse.
I've been in stuck in a state of confusion wondering if this were the right decision or if that were the right decision.
After spending some much needed time at the beach, my soul finally felt a sense of peace. I was overwhelmed with emotions and I even cried to my friend.
The ocean speaks to my soul and it listens. The universal language we all know within us (which mine felt peace) had experienced nothing. NOTHING was exactly what I needed...no worries, no drama, no paranoia, no NOTHING. AHHH! It felt great.
Finally, I let go of wanting to say GOODBYE to someone I've had a rollercoaster relationship with for the past year. I let go of many friends, and they've let go of me.
Any problems that existed before I left, I no longer care about them. They're in the past. I can either dwell on them and allow them to effect my NOW and my Future, or let them go and leave them in the past.
The only direction you can go is forward, you don't have an option. I choose to go forward with a smile. I get to my destination, no matter what I choose, might as well enjoy it.
xoxo
Thursday, April 23, 2009
A dash of Michelle...
I've been writing blogs for nearly 2 years. I spoke more of my mind when I first started out, after offending a few people, arguing with a few people over personal issues, I changed my blog entries. I decided to be more inspirational, spiritual, and less personal.
After contemplating deeply upon what felt good in my heart, what I felt comfortable projecting to the world, and what I've experienced in the past few months, I've decided to share a dash of the true me and my personality.
I find any jokes about bowel movements or farts hilarious.
I tried to quit drinking, the idea sounded good, but it's not possible. I like to have a good time just as much as the next person, an alcoholic beverage helps me relax.
I have a spiritual side which runs deeper than most, but I'm not very religious.
I believe do what makes you happy, respect each other's differences, and try to understand one another in a loving way.
I've learned you have to love some people at a distance.
No one should seek revenge on anyone. Of course, I've done it, felt guilty, and paid the price for it. Let other people deal with the consequences of their actions. The Laws of Nature have a way of working themselves out.
I'm very analytical. I tend to over-analyze things.
I've been associated with all types of people throughout my life , and there's nothing you can tell me, which will shock me. I've lived in 3 different countries, many different states, and visited places all over the world.
My intelligence is often underestimated.
If you added all the moments of my life together. The majority of them I've spent depressed.
If I were to die tomorrow, I'd want to leave everyone with this message. I'd want everyone to know this about me.
1. I love my son more than anything in this world. He's the reason I'm here doing what I'm doing. He has provided me with the happiest moments of my life.
2. I believe in God, the creator of our universe.
3. Don't waste your time on petty things. Don't let anyone discourage you from your dreams. And never allow circumstance to hinder you from becoming who you want to be and where you want to go. If there's a will, there's a way. Find it.
4. Don't feel the need to prove yourself to anyone, but yourself. The only person you need to compete with is yourself to do your best, and live the best life you can live. The older you get, the faster life goes, and you shouldn't ever sit and wonder "what if"...you should know.
YOUR DECISIONS HAVE CREATED YOU. YOU CAN BECOME ANYTHING!
This is a dash of Michelle and how I feel...
After contemplating deeply upon what felt good in my heart, what I felt comfortable projecting to the world, and what I've experienced in the past few months, I've decided to share a dash of the true me and my personality.
I find any jokes about bowel movements or farts hilarious.
I tried to quit drinking, the idea sounded good, but it's not possible. I like to have a good time just as much as the next person, an alcoholic beverage helps me relax.
I have a spiritual side which runs deeper than most, but I'm not very religious.
I believe do what makes you happy, respect each other's differences, and try to understand one another in a loving way.
I've learned you have to love some people at a distance.
No one should seek revenge on anyone. Of course, I've done it, felt guilty, and paid the price for it. Let other people deal with the consequences of their actions. The Laws of Nature have a way of working themselves out.
I'm very analytical. I tend to over-analyze things.
I've been associated with all types of people throughout my life , and there's nothing you can tell me, which will shock me. I've lived in 3 different countries, many different states, and visited places all over the world.
My intelligence is often underestimated.
If you added all the moments of my life together. The majority of them I've spent depressed.
If I were to die tomorrow, I'd want to leave everyone with this message. I'd want everyone to know this about me.
1. I love my son more than anything in this world. He's the reason I'm here doing what I'm doing. He has provided me with the happiest moments of my life.
2. I believe in God, the creator of our universe.
3. Don't waste your time on petty things. Don't let anyone discourage you from your dreams. And never allow circumstance to hinder you from becoming who you want to be and where you want to go. If there's a will, there's a way. Find it.
4. Don't feel the need to prove yourself to anyone, but yourself. The only person you need to compete with is yourself to do your best, and live the best life you can live. The older you get, the faster life goes, and you shouldn't ever sit and wonder "what if"...you should know.
YOUR DECISIONS HAVE CREATED YOU. YOU CAN BECOME ANYTHING!
This is a dash of Michelle and how I feel...
Friday, April 17, 2009
The Devil's Advocate
"Your neighbors are the channel through which your virtues are tested and come to birth...just as those who are evil give birth to all their vices through their neighbors." ~Catherine of Siena
I've become a hermit in the recent weeks. I felt due to personal issues, it was best for me to distance myself from everyone. During the process of my life, during hardships, I'd gradually get off course. This time I decided to stop, make some corrections, deal with my issues at hand, and renew myself so I didn't unconsciously begin to absorb and live by the negative values of the world. It'd also be a slow process of attracting the wrong people into my life.
There's a latin phrase in Christianity: Semper Reformanda. It means, "Always in need of Reform." Nothing can stay the same where it is at any point in history.
I work for an air conditioning company. 20 years ago, the main source of finding a company was in the phone book, now it's the internet. We're having a website built with tags to find us on a search engine. We're still the same company, offering the same services, but we had to make changes to keep our business running efficiently.
When you're faced with dilemmas, stop and rethink your course of action, so you're not always running against the wind. Make changes within yourself to improve the quality of your life and those around you.
If you don't stop and take a look around, you may never see "what" or "who" you're sending open invitations to experience/influence your daily routine.
Reform? Improvement? The best place to start is with yourself.
Just like our company, you need to make the proper adjustments to keep your world running the most effective and efficiently as possible.
I've become a hermit in the recent weeks. I felt due to personal issues, it was best for me to distance myself from everyone. During the process of my life, during hardships, I'd gradually get off course. This time I decided to stop, make some corrections, deal with my issues at hand, and renew myself so I didn't unconsciously begin to absorb and live by the negative values of the world. It'd also be a slow process of attracting the wrong people into my life.
There's a latin phrase in Christianity: Semper Reformanda. It means, "Always in need of Reform." Nothing can stay the same where it is at any point in history.
I work for an air conditioning company. 20 years ago, the main source of finding a company was in the phone book, now it's the internet. We're having a website built with tags to find us on a search engine. We're still the same company, offering the same services, but we had to make changes to keep our business running efficiently.
When you're faced with dilemmas, stop and rethink your course of action, so you're not always running against the wind. Make changes within yourself to improve the quality of your life and those around you.
If you don't stop and take a look around, you may never see "what" or "who" you're sending open invitations to experience/influence your daily routine.
Reform? Improvement? The best place to start is with yourself.
Just like our company, you need to make the proper adjustments to keep your world running the most effective and efficiently as possible.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Have you spent any time with God, today?
"We ought to fly away from earth to heaven as quickly as we can; and to fly away is to become like God, as far as this is possible; and to become like him is to become holy, just, and wise." ~Plato
We all have a "big stone" in our life, blocking us from somethign we want to do. Sometimes it's a physical "stone" - perhaps our age or a responsibility that prohibits us from packing up and livign the active life we want to live.
Sometimes, the "stone" is harder to see...but it's there. It may be anger that prevents you from making amends with someone. Or fear that keeps you from expressing your feeligns or trying to accomplish something.
Who will roll the "stone" back that prevents you from being the person God wants you to be?
It's taken me sometime to realize we were built for God. Just like a fish is made for water. We are drawn toward God because God is our only source of peace, happiness, fulfillment, life, etc... (Everyone seeks God even if they don't use the term "God".)
God is a gift given to you. He's not on a mountaintop and totally apart from your work day. God is right there in the field of your everyday life.
For many years I felt as if I weren't "good enough" to deserve God's love or have a relationship with him. Now I know it's not a task to earn God's presence in my life, or deserve it, or to work for it. All I needed to do was notice God's presence and open up to it. Just take a look around...God is everywhere including within us. Share God's love within you with everyone.
When you realize that this is what God is asking us to do, you discover YOU are the one who moves the "stone"....even when it seems impossible.
We all have a "big stone" in our life, blocking us from somethign we want to do. Sometimes it's a physical "stone" - perhaps our age or a responsibility that prohibits us from packing up and livign the active life we want to live.
Sometimes, the "stone" is harder to see...but it's there. It may be anger that prevents you from making amends with someone. Or fear that keeps you from expressing your feeligns or trying to accomplish something.
Who will roll the "stone" back that prevents you from being the person God wants you to be?
It's taken me sometime to realize we were built for God. Just like a fish is made for water. We are drawn toward God because God is our only source of peace, happiness, fulfillment, life, etc... (Everyone seeks God even if they don't use the term "God".)
God is a gift given to you. He's not on a mountaintop and totally apart from your work day. God is right there in the field of your everyday life.
For many years I felt as if I weren't "good enough" to deserve God's love or have a relationship with him. Now I know it's not a task to earn God's presence in my life, or deserve it, or to work for it. All I needed to do was notice God's presence and open up to it. Just take a look around...God is everywhere including within us. Share God's love within you with everyone.
When you realize that this is what God is asking us to do, you discover YOU are the one who moves the "stone"....even when it seems impossible.
Monday, March 30, 2009
Friday, March 27, 2009
Signs are all around us.
THIS HURTS MY HEART FOR MANY DIFFERENT REASONS! I FOUND IT DISTURBING, YET INTERESTING, SO I WANTED TO SHARE IT WITH EVERYONE!
Family of Irving 'Bud' Feldkamp, Owner of the Nation's Largest Privately Owned Abortion Chain, Dies in Montana Plane Crash
Contact: Gingi Edmonds, www.gingiedmonds.com, 559-772-7911MEDIA ADVISORY, Mar. 24 /Christian Newswire/ -- Some of you may have seen the major news story of the private plane that crashed into a Montana cemetery, killing 7 children and 7 adults.
But what the news sources fail to mention is that the Catholic Holy Cross Cemetery owned by Resurrection Cemetery Association in Butte - contains a memorial for local residents to pray the rosary, at the 'Tomb of the Unborn'. This memorial, located a short distance west of the church, was erected as a dedication to all babies who have died because of abortion.
What else is the mainstream news not telling you? The family who died in the crash near the location of the abortion victim's memorial, is the family of Irving 'Bud' Feldkamp, owner of the largest for-profit abortion chain in the nation.
Family Planning Associates was purchased four years ago by Irving Moore "Bud" Feldkamp III, owner of Allcare and Hospitality Dental Associates and CEO of Glen Helen Raceway Park in San Bernardino. The 17 California Family Planning clinics perform more abortions in the state than any other abortion provider - Planned Parenthood included - and they perform abortions through the first five months of pregnancy.
Although Feldkamp is not an abortionist, he reaps profits of blood money from the tens of thousands of babies that are killed through abortions performed every year at the clinics he owns. His business in the abortion industry was what enabled him to afford the private plane that was carrying his family to their week-long vacation at The Yellowstone Club, a millionaires-only ski resort.
The plane went down on Sunday, killing two of Feldkamp's daughters, two sons-in-law and five grandchildren along with the pilot and four family friends. The plane, a single-engine turboprop flown by Bud Summerfield of Highland, crashed into the Catholic cemetery and burst into flames, only 500 ft. from its landing destination. All aboard were killed.
The cause of the crash is a mystery. The pilot, who was a former military flier who logged over 2,000 miles, gave no indication to air traffic controllers that the aircraft was experiencing difficulty when he asked to divert to an airport in Butte. Witnesses report that the plane suddenly nosedived toward the ground with no apparent signs of a struggle. There was neither a cockpit voice recorder nor a flight data recorder onboard, and no radar clues into the planes final moments because the Butte airport is not equipped with a radar facility. Some speculate that the crash was due to ice on the wings, but this particular plane model has been tested for icy weather and experts have stated that ice being the cause is unlikely.
In my time working for Survivors of the Abortion Holocaust, I helped organize and conduct a weekly campaign where youth activists stood outside of Feldkamp's mini-mansion in Redlands holding fetal development signs and raising community awareness regarding Feldkamp's dealings in child murder for profit. Every Thursday afternoon we called upon Bud and his wife Pam to repent, seek God's blessing and separate themselves from the practice of child killing.
We warned him, for his children's sake, to wash his hands of the innocent blood he assisted in spilling because, as Scripture warns, if "you did not hate bloodshed, bloodshed will pursue you". (Ezekiel 35:6)
A news source states that Bud Feldkamp visited the site of the crash with his wife and their two surviving children on Monday. As they stood near the twisted and charred debris talking with investigators, light snow fell on the tarps that covered the remains of their children.
I don't want to turn this tragic event into some creepy spiritual 'I told you so' moment, but I think of the time spent outside of Feldkamp's - Pam Feldkamp laughing at the fetal development signs, Bud Feldkamp trying not to make eye contact as he got into his car with a small child in tow - and I think of the haunting words, 'Think of your children.' I wonder if those words were haunting Feldkamp as well as he stood in the snow among the remains of loved ones, just feet from the 'Tomb of the Unborn'?
I only hope and pray that in the face of this tragedy, Feldkamp recognizes his need for repentance and reformation. I pray that God will use this unfortunate catastrophe to soften the hearts of Bud and Pam and that they will draw close to the Lord and wash their hands of the blood of thousands of innocent children, each as precious and irreplaceable as their own.
"I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse. Choose life, then." (Deut. 30:19)
Family of Irving 'Bud' Feldkamp, Owner of the Nation's Largest Privately Owned Abortion Chain, Dies in Montana Plane Crash
Contact: Gingi Edmonds, www.gingiedmonds.com, 559-772-7911MEDIA ADVISORY, Mar. 24 /Christian Newswire/ -- Some of you may have seen the major news story of the private plane that crashed into a Montana cemetery, killing 7 children and 7 adults.
But what the news sources fail to mention is that the Catholic Holy Cross Cemetery owned by Resurrection Cemetery Association in Butte - contains a memorial for local residents to pray the rosary, at the 'Tomb of the Unborn'. This memorial, located a short distance west of the church, was erected as a dedication to all babies who have died because of abortion.
What else is the mainstream news not telling you? The family who died in the crash near the location of the abortion victim's memorial, is the family of Irving 'Bud' Feldkamp, owner of the largest for-profit abortion chain in the nation.
Family Planning Associates was purchased four years ago by Irving Moore "Bud" Feldkamp III, owner of Allcare and Hospitality Dental Associates and CEO of Glen Helen Raceway Park in San Bernardino. The 17 California Family Planning clinics perform more abortions in the state than any other abortion provider - Planned Parenthood included - and they perform abortions through the first five months of pregnancy.
Although Feldkamp is not an abortionist, he reaps profits of blood money from the tens of thousands of babies that are killed through abortions performed every year at the clinics he owns. His business in the abortion industry was what enabled him to afford the private plane that was carrying his family to their week-long vacation at The Yellowstone Club, a millionaires-only ski resort.
The plane went down on Sunday, killing two of Feldkamp's daughters, two sons-in-law and five grandchildren along with the pilot and four family friends. The plane, a single-engine turboprop flown by Bud Summerfield of Highland, crashed into the Catholic cemetery and burst into flames, only 500 ft. from its landing destination. All aboard were killed.
The cause of the crash is a mystery. The pilot, who was a former military flier who logged over 2,000 miles, gave no indication to air traffic controllers that the aircraft was experiencing difficulty when he asked to divert to an airport in Butte. Witnesses report that the plane suddenly nosedived toward the ground with no apparent signs of a struggle. There was neither a cockpit voice recorder nor a flight data recorder onboard, and no radar clues into the planes final moments because the Butte airport is not equipped with a radar facility. Some speculate that the crash was due to ice on the wings, but this particular plane model has been tested for icy weather and experts have stated that ice being the cause is unlikely.
In my time working for Survivors of the Abortion Holocaust, I helped organize and conduct a weekly campaign where youth activists stood outside of Feldkamp's mini-mansion in Redlands holding fetal development signs and raising community awareness regarding Feldkamp's dealings in child murder for profit. Every Thursday afternoon we called upon Bud and his wife Pam to repent, seek God's blessing and separate themselves from the practice of child killing.
We warned him, for his children's sake, to wash his hands of the innocent blood he assisted in spilling because, as Scripture warns, if "you did not hate bloodshed, bloodshed will pursue you". (Ezekiel 35:6)
A news source states that Bud Feldkamp visited the site of the crash with his wife and their two surviving children on Monday. As they stood near the twisted and charred debris talking with investigators, light snow fell on the tarps that covered the remains of their children.
I don't want to turn this tragic event into some creepy spiritual 'I told you so' moment, but I think of the time spent outside of Feldkamp's - Pam Feldkamp laughing at the fetal development signs, Bud Feldkamp trying not to make eye contact as he got into his car with a small child in tow - and I think of the haunting words, 'Think of your children.' I wonder if those words were haunting Feldkamp as well as he stood in the snow among the remains of loved ones, just feet from the 'Tomb of the Unborn'?
I only hope and pray that in the face of this tragedy, Feldkamp recognizes his need for repentance and reformation. I pray that God will use this unfortunate catastrophe to soften the hearts of Bud and Pam and that they will draw close to the Lord and wash their hands of the blood of thousands of innocent children, each as precious and irreplaceable as their own.
"I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse. Choose life, then." (Deut. 30:19)
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Attracting what you want...
I've been experiencing an internal conflict with myself over the past 2 weeks. It stimulates from my chosen hobby to model. I decided to let go of my desires to model almost a year ago. By a whim of fate, I ended up doing a photoshoot to make flyers to help promote for the Fashion Show I'm participating in at Club 1120, tomorrow night. I originally accepted an offer to be a Ring Girl for an MMA fight because a dear friend's band is performing at the event and I had just separated from my ex, once again. Out of rebellion, I accepted the offer. Which my choice to do so, has brought alot of negative energy into my life. I'm being paid good money for my time and participation but you can't put a price tag on a peace of mind.
This week has been a hectic week for me. I've worked for almost 2 weeks straight. This Sunday will be my first day off. I'm going to thoroughly enjoy it.
I received a newsletter and pamplet from the authors Esther and Jerry Hicks this week. As I was reading the material, I encountered a message I felt I was led to read. I've never received any information from them in the mail before, so it was a nice little surprise. The message has inspired me to pick-up a copy of their latest book "Money, and the Law of Attraction".
I felt compelled to share the message with everyone, becuase this has inspired me to stay on the right path and to continue to make better decisions in my life, so I will reap the benefits of a prosperous and joy-filled life.
"Most people have no idea of the power of their own thoughts. They do not relaize that as they continue to find things to compalin about, they disallow their own physical well-being. Many do not realize that before they were compalining about an aching body or a chronic disease, they were complaining about many other things first. It doesn't matter if the object of your compalint is about someone you are angry with, someone who has betrayed you, behavior in otehrs that you bleieve is wrong, or somehting wrong with your own physical body-complaining is complaining, and it disallows recovery."
"Learn to guide your thoughts in the direction of things that feel good, and discover the ower that only comes from vibrational alignment with the Source." (aka God, or whatever creator you believe in)
YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY
My thoughts weren't aligned with the source energy and from my lack of alignment I made a decision to start modeling, again, and it has attracted negative energy and people into my life.
"The Law of Attraction says that which is like unto itself, is drawn."
Which means what you think, at any moment, attracts other thoughts that are like it. That is why when you are thinking about an unpleaseant subject, more unpleasant thoughts regarding the subject arise.As your negative thoughts expand, so do your negative emotions and you begin to attract more of it into your life.
Once you start discussing it with others, it brings a negative thought pattern into their life, as well as brings more negative events into your life. Which is why it's important to be careful who you associate with or consider friends. The more you think about things, the more likely you'll bring that experience into your reality.
Be careful of your thoughts for it creates your future experiences.
I've been doing the best I can to eliminate any and all negative people, or experiences into my life. I made one decision for the wrong reasons and I'm now committed to ful-fill my commitments. It's the right thing to do. But once it's over, I'm done with all of it for good.
This week has been a hectic week for me. I've worked for almost 2 weeks straight. This Sunday will be my first day off. I'm going to thoroughly enjoy it.
I received a newsletter and pamplet from the authors Esther and Jerry Hicks this week. As I was reading the material, I encountered a message I felt I was led to read. I've never received any information from them in the mail before, so it was a nice little surprise. The message has inspired me to pick-up a copy of their latest book "Money, and the Law of Attraction".
I felt compelled to share the message with everyone, becuase this has inspired me to stay on the right path and to continue to make better decisions in my life, so I will reap the benefits of a prosperous and joy-filled life.
"Most people have no idea of the power of their own thoughts. They do not relaize that as they continue to find things to compalin about, they disallow their own physical well-being. Many do not realize that before they were compalining about an aching body or a chronic disease, they were complaining about many other things first. It doesn't matter if the object of your compalint is about someone you are angry with, someone who has betrayed you, behavior in otehrs that you bleieve is wrong, or somehting wrong with your own physical body-complaining is complaining, and it disallows recovery."
"Learn to guide your thoughts in the direction of things that feel good, and discover the ower that only comes from vibrational alignment with the Source." (aka God, or whatever creator you believe in)
YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY
My thoughts weren't aligned with the source energy and from my lack of alignment I made a decision to start modeling, again, and it has attracted negative energy and people into my life.
"The Law of Attraction says that which is like unto itself, is drawn."
Which means what you think, at any moment, attracts other thoughts that are like it. That is why when you are thinking about an unpleaseant subject, more unpleasant thoughts regarding the subject arise.As your negative thoughts expand, so do your negative emotions and you begin to attract more of it into your life.
Once you start discussing it with others, it brings a negative thought pattern into their life, as well as brings more negative events into your life. Which is why it's important to be careful who you associate with or consider friends. The more you think about things, the more likely you'll bring that experience into your reality.
Be careful of your thoughts for it creates your future experiences.
I've been doing the best I can to eliminate any and all negative people, or experiences into my life. I made one decision for the wrong reasons and I'm now committed to ful-fill my commitments. It's the right thing to do. But once it's over, I'm done with all of it for good.
Friday, March 20, 2009
Is this the right direction?
"When you succeed you celebrate, when you fail you ponder and change" ~ Tony Robbins
He posted this quote on his twitter account this morning. I thought "what a great quote. I needed to hear these words this morning".
We're human, we're gonna fail. We suffer from failed relationships, failed parenting, failure at work, failed health, etc... And when we fail, e encounter wounds that may penetrate so deeply we begin to make different choices. We settle for less than what we really want, less than the best and boldest we can accomplish, out of FEAR to fail.
What would it be like to push failure into a different light? Instead of dwelling on the feelings associated with disgrace and guilt, look inside yourself to see what it tells you about your well being and your conduct in your life. Failure is an essential part of the path of creation. Enormous amounts of energy are freed when you release yourself of guilt and apply it towards something positive. You begin to create something new...something better for yourself!
Overcoming failure or rejection is hard, but know it's not the end of your rope. I've been at the end of my rope, climbed my way back up, and also climbed back down a few times to check it out, again.
These obstacles make the sense of succeeding much more powerful.
Look at each failure as an opportunity to expand, learn, and grow. You'll achieve your goal, if you stay focused, overcome failure, and keep moving forward. Return to the drawing board, and decide what you need to do different the next time. Make improvements in the necessary areas and you'll rejoice in an improved outcome.
I write my best material when I'm experiencing emotional pain from failure. I don't like to fail. I like to win. I like to succeed. I want to be the best Michelle, I can be.
My recent failures have challenged me to make changes in my life. These changes aren't easy, but I know the benefits will be well worth it.
He posted this quote on his twitter account this morning. I thought "what a great quote. I needed to hear these words this morning".
We're human, we're gonna fail. We suffer from failed relationships, failed parenting, failure at work, failed health, etc... And when we fail, e encounter wounds that may penetrate so deeply we begin to make different choices. We settle for less than what we really want, less than the best and boldest we can accomplish, out of FEAR to fail.
What would it be like to push failure into a different light? Instead of dwelling on the feelings associated with disgrace and guilt, look inside yourself to see what it tells you about your well being and your conduct in your life. Failure is an essential part of the path of creation. Enormous amounts of energy are freed when you release yourself of guilt and apply it towards something positive. You begin to create something new...something better for yourself!
Overcoming failure or rejection is hard, but know it's not the end of your rope. I've been at the end of my rope, climbed my way back up, and also climbed back down a few times to check it out, again.
These obstacles make the sense of succeeding much more powerful.
Look at each failure as an opportunity to expand, learn, and grow. You'll achieve your goal, if you stay focused, overcome failure, and keep moving forward. Return to the drawing board, and decide what you need to do different the next time. Make improvements in the necessary areas and you'll rejoice in an improved outcome.
I write my best material when I'm experiencing emotional pain from failure. I don't like to fail. I like to win. I like to succeed. I want to be the best Michelle, I can be.
My recent failures have challenged me to make changes in my life. These changes aren't easy, but I know the benefits will be well worth it.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
10,000 Spoons when all you need is a knife.
As I was doing my morning work-out, I couldn't stop thinking about the thing that's been frustrating me for months, now. I've been in a stage of heartbreak, since late October. It's been hard for me to shake it off.
I try to stay positive. I've done countless things to make the these feelings fade or vanish, and they stay attached to me.
Last night, I finally accepted the fact of my ex-boyfriend not being the one for me. It's tough to accept reality, at moments. I've beat myself up, countless times, over what I should've done better, what I could have done better, and why didn't I do certain things better. I've realized it's not my fault. He just didn't love me the way I loved him.
He did crappy things to me. I did crappy things to him. But I loved him more than I've ever loved anyone in my life. It has sucked.
Since we've been apart, I've talked to a few other guys but I'm unable to connect with them due to my feelings for my ex. Since we've been broken up, I've stayed committed to him. It's been hard to let go.
I, personally, can't have sex with someone to just have sex with someone. Yes, I've made a few mistakes in my life, but overall I'm very selective with my sexual partners due to my feelings of attachment towards them. I don't do booty calls, friends with benefits, one night stands, etc...
I've heard many people say a healthy sex life is good for you. I'm sure it is, but I prefer to be in love and share something special with my partner.
Today, I'm deciding to add a vow of celibacy to my list. I quit drinking, although I did cave on St. Patty's Day and had a few drinks for my friend's Birthday, but no more drinking. I'm sticking firmly to this vow until I meet someone I deeply love, who also loves me back. Which I know will be quite sometime, because my feelings are still very strong towards my ex. I'm also focused on myself at the current moment. I don't want to have a partner for awhile.
Wish me luck!
I try to stay positive. I've done countless things to make the these feelings fade or vanish, and they stay attached to me.
Last night, I finally accepted the fact of my ex-boyfriend not being the one for me. It's tough to accept reality, at moments. I've beat myself up, countless times, over what I should've done better, what I could have done better, and why didn't I do certain things better. I've realized it's not my fault. He just didn't love me the way I loved him.
He did crappy things to me. I did crappy things to him. But I loved him more than I've ever loved anyone in my life. It has sucked.
Since we've been apart, I've talked to a few other guys but I'm unable to connect with them due to my feelings for my ex. Since we've been broken up, I've stayed committed to him. It's been hard to let go.
I, personally, can't have sex with someone to just have sex with someone. Yes, I've made a few mistakes in my life, but overall I'm very selective with my sexual partners due to my feelings of attachment towards them. I don't do booty calls, friends with benefits, one night stands, etc...
I've heard many people say a healthy sex life is good for you. I'm sure it is, but I prefer to be in love and share something special with my partner.
Today, I'm deciding to add a vow of celibacy to my list. I quit drinking, although I did cave on St. Patty's Day and had a few drinks for my friend's Birthday, but no more drinking. I'm sticking firmly to this vow until I meet someone I deeply love, who also loves me back. Which I know will be quite sometime, because my feelings are still very strong towards my ex. I'm also focused on myself at the current moment. I don't want to have a partner for awhile.
Wish me luck!
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